The Dark Side of Emotional Intelligence

There are times when it is essential to be able to touch with emotions. But, being an emotional intelligent person is not always an advantage. There are times when it can also be a serious detriment. And just like other skills, the ability to read people could be used not only for good but also for evil. 

What is emotionally intelligent? 

Although definitions may vary, emotional intelligence is composed of interpersonal and intrapersonal skills specifically high adjustment, sensitivity, prudence, and sociability. Numerous studies have proven how important emotional intelligence is in different areas of life, offering compelling evidence for the advantages of higher emotional intelligence when it comes to relationships, health, and work. 

Unfortunately, emotional intelligence is also found to have its own dark side. Take a look at the not so good implications of being an emotional intelligent person:

Lower Levels of Potential to be Creative and Innovative 

It is said that emotional intelligence has a negative correlation with most of the traits that predispose people toward innovation and creativity. Creativity has always been linked with attributes characteristic of low emotional intelligence such as hostile impulsivity, non-conformism, moodiness, and up and down or excitable personality. 

Even if creative people can be emotionally intelligent, those with high emotional intelligence excel in working with other people, building relations, and following processes. However, they may lack essential levels of unconventionality and nonconformity that might urge them to challenge and change the status quo. 

Reluctance to Offend or Upset Other People 

An emotional intelligent person can be very appealing because he has all the qualities that others look for in followers. However, this also means that they might not be suitable for roles where they need to bring about changes, make unpopular choices and focus on driving better results. Emotionally intelligent people pay more attention to getting along with others instead of getting ahead, which means that growth and innovation might be difficult for them.  

Difficulty to Receive and Give Negative Feedback

It is easy to assume that emotionally intelligent people won’t have a hard time in receiving and giving feedback since these two require social interaction. However, if you try to delve deeper, you will discover that that their high empathetic concern and interpersonal sensitivity make it challenging for them to render negative or critical feedback to other people. 

They might also be too cool headed and adjusted that they might feel indifference to negative feedback. Shaking up emotional intelligent people isn’t easy because they are so positive, adjusted, and calm in general. 

Honed Ability to Manipulate or Control Others

While it is a good thing for emotionally intelligent people; to empathize and convey message that the audience will feel right, once taken too far, this can quickly shift from influencing other people to engaging in manipulation techniques. The risk of excessive use of a person’s social skills is that it focuses heavily on the communication’s emotional aspects while discarding its more transactional aspects and logical arguments. This means that the darker side of emotional intelligence is that it helps people with bad intentions to be too persuasive just so they can get their way. 

Emotional intelligence might be a highly adaptive and desirable trait but obsessing over it can also lead to negative effects. 

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