Last Updated on December 20, 2023
A good relationship must be something that inspires a person to grow and be better. If you are lucky, you might even find yourself in a relationship with someone who will take care of you and nurture you without asking for anything in return. After all, giving without expecting to get anything in exchange is what real love is all about.
However, just as how the world is imperfect, people are far from being perfect themselves. But most of the time, even if your special someone is flawed, you are still willing and ready to accept and love them for what and who they are.
As the famous adage goes, love is blind. But in your blindness, it is easy to take these small and apparently trivial flaws for granted until everything is already too late.
When your role in the relationship is being the nurturer and giver, there are important actions you can take to ensure that you will always be a healthy and good influence on the life of your significant other.
If the flaws of your partner are already starting to affect your relationship negatively, here are seven ways to motivate and inspire your partner to change for the better:
1. Don’t be Annoying and Demanding
If you want to help your partner, it is important to be extra careful to ensure that you don’t end up putting a lot of pressure on them that might be too much for them to handle. Make sure you never let them suffer from mental pressure and offer them a solid line of support.
There is always the risk that your partner will get annoyed and stressed out if you constantly bother them about changing something about themselves. No one likes and appreciates pushy people, particularly when there are problems around you and you just want everyone to leave you alone.
2. Avoid Excessive Praises
Praising your significant other is one of the most important things you can do to keep them motivated. However, you should also know when it is time to stop. Doing too much of something good can end up bad.
If you praise your partner all the time and every chance you get, you might come off as being insincere. Try to cut back on gushing too much about the accomplishments and goals of your partner. Instead, the best thing you can do is to commend them only when it is due. These occasional praises can push your partner to be better and do better.
3. Acknowledge Their Attempts
So you have advised your partner to make some changes. Once you do so, you will be sharing the responsibility of making sure that your partner will try to do something to heed your advice. Once you notice their attempt to change their ways, make sure you acknowledge it. For example, if your partner no longer loses his or her cool too easily, let them know about how amazing they are every time they keep their calm.
4. Know the Real Reasons
Your partner is probably troubled for a reason. Try to create a relaxing and cozy ambiance and look for the perfect time to have a heart-to-heart talk with them to understand whatever is bothering them.
By knowing the real reasons behind the problems or negative side of your partner, you can become their emotional support rather than someone who constantly comments and criticizes your partner every time you see something bad in them.
5. Remind Them of Their Success
If things aren’t going well for your partner, you can encourage them through a pep talk. Remember that the two of you are in the relationship together, and one of your roles is to remind them how talented and wonderful they are as a person.
For example, you can remind them of their past achievements. Let them see their ability and skills once again which can help them turn their dreams into reality. This strategy can help boost the self-esteem and self-confidence of your partner which can then encourage them to change their ways for the better.
6. Give a Reward When It is Due
Venturing into the unknown is never easy, especially if you have been stuck in a place for a long time. So if you see your partner trying to do his or her best to change, don’t hesitate to show your appreciation and happiness with their attempt.
Rewarding attempts and feats can make your partner more inspired to continue with whatever change he or she is doing. Once they see that you are happy because of their actions and efforts and they know that they are meeting your expectations, they will feel the motivation and desire to be better.
On the other hand, it is also important to avoid blaming your partner every time they stumble because doing so might be too hurtful for them to the point that they will stop. And once they stop trying, all your efforts to help them change for the better will be useless.
7. Take Small Steps
Change doesn’t happen overnight. Sometimes, the road to change can be long, winding, and complicated. At times, the goal may seem impossible to achieve, especially when unexpected obstacles and challenges pop up to block your way.
If your partner has no idea what to do, how to move forward, or where to begin in the first place, you can try suggesting they take small steps instead of big leaps. You can share your thoughts regarding the situation with your partner. You can even list down the small steps they can do as well as the people who might be able to help them rise above the difficulties and challenges.
Relationships are never easy, nor are they always filled with smiles and laughter. However, as long as you try to do your best and support each other, helping your partner to change for the better won’t be impossible.
